President and CMO Dee Ann McPherson joins Frank Mallicoat to talk about the app “Mom Life”
As Jenny Ingram’s blog, Jenny on the Spot, has grown and changed over the years, so have her three children, causing the Washington mom to reflect on the many ways parenting teens and tweens differs from parenting infants and toddlers.
But, Ingram says one thing has not changed — the way she and her fellow moms are judged for their parenting choices and mom-shamed for making choices that others do not approve of.
Years ago, I saw a well-known vegan celebrity – and he was eating a hotdog. One made of meat. At the time, I was brand-new to the vegan lifestyle, smug and chock full of self-righteousness. I eagerly tattled on the celeb to a friend who is a vegan chef.
I’ll never forget what happened next.
The chef looked me in the eyes and shook her head.
“The world can be difficult,” she said. “We’re all just doing the best we can.”
That last part humbled me, and it immediately put me in my place. She was right. We’re all doing our best here – why make it harder on each other?
Now that I’m a mother, I try to remind myself of this on a daily basis. Motherhood is a challenge, no matter how it’s done, and we’re all just doing the best we can.
Most of us have been mom-shamed at some point; but it’s a much larger issue than we may have imagined.
The app surveyed more than 200 American women, most of whom were no strangers to being at the receiving end of unsolicited advice and criticism surrounding polarizing issues like breastfeeding in public. In fact, how you feed your baby was the top reason moms were shamed, something I can most certainly attest to!
It’s totally a thing.
I have endured my fair share of mom shaming.
In fact a survey of 227 moms by Mom.life found:
- 79.2% were shamed at some point.
- 53.86% say it was frequent or rampant.
- Feeding choice (63.73%) and parenting style (58.2%) were the most common reasons for criticism.
- 67.23% of shamers were moms themselves.
- 0.49% said the shaming actually changed their parenting beliefs.
It’s pointless and it needs to stop.
We’re all just trying to be the best parents we can be without the worry and added stress of other moms thinking negatively about the job we’re doing. Can’t we just all get along? Can’t we just all want the best for our kids? Can’t we just have other moms take a step back and just worry about themselves?
I sat down with my bestie to share our own Mom Shaming stories…
Join NextGen MilSpouse’s Adrianna Lupher, Michelle Volkmann, Jessica Hall, and Amy Bushatz, Spouse and Family Editor at mom.life, the app for modern moms!. This week we got to hang out with 2 bad-ass mamas/professionals, Dee Anna McPherson and Nicole Hempeck from